Let’s Talk Mentors…Mama Mentors!


Being a mom is hard…right?!? Feeling like you are going it alone is even harder!

Do you ever feel like you just want to cry?  like you want to pull your hair out? like you’re going crazy?? You might be in desperate need of a mama Mentor!

 What’s a mama mentor? A mama mentor is a woman who has either teen or grown children, who is well seasoned in the art of parenting toddlers, young children and grade school aged children! A mother who is a loving and encouraging towards other mothers naturally! I can virtually guarantee that you have at least one woman that fits every single attribute that I just said! Approach her and talk to her about becoming your mentor! But, we’ll talk about that a little later.
When you need a mentor…
There are times when the stress just takes over you just feel like you can’t go one more minute without just bursting into tears, you know when the craziness of your day has taken over every fiber of your being and you are just a giant ball of emotion… It’s times like that with every mom with young littles needs to have somebody that they can call up, that they can text, that they can go to their house and say “I need you I need to talk to you” (it’s great to have your mom and your sisters around but sometimes it’s really good have a third-party friend/mentor who is not directly related to you.  They often have a different and {needed} take on the situation then somebody who is related to you that may be biased about it!
My mentor…

I have been blessed with an amazing mama mentor she’s the mother of children from 20 – 30 years old. She is nothing but supportive of me. I know that whenever I’m having a rough time with any situation at any age and with any of my kids I can go to her and she will have such an amazing bit of encouragement to give me and I know that there’s nothing that I can throw at her that she hasn’t been through! It is so encouraging for her to tell me the story about one of her children who was just a total crazy maniac as a toddler and then she can tell me what he’s like now as a grown-up, she can tell me how she learned that one particular style of discipline was not right for one child but it was right for another child… Something that I deal with on a daily but basis all of my children respond differently to different types of discipline
I love having her as a sounding board, I can tell her my feeling, emotions, ideas & frustrations and I know I will get honest positive encouragement and feedback!
There are times when I just want to sit down with her and tell her that I don’t feel like I can handle it, I don’t feel like I can handle the temper tantrums in the masses and just the absolute craziness that occurs in my house…that’s when she holds my hand and tells me “I know exactly how you feel” and my heart knows she truly knows exactly how I feel… There is no substitute for that!
There are times when I can tell her a particular story and she smiles and says “you know I remember when that happened with_____” and she has her own story of how she dealt with pretty much the exact situation and that is so encouraging and comforting to me in those times of need whether it is stress, anger, happiness, sadness, any emotion.  I mean you name it she has encouragement right there ready for me!
Honestly there have been times when I’ve thought “oh my goodness I am the worst mother on the face of the earth, my kiddos are out-of-control” I turned my mentor to tell her theses these feelings and she laughs and she tells me” oh my gosh your kids are exactly how little kids are in
Amazing mother” I just can’t describe to you how that makes me feel inside! Her words make me feel rejuvenated.  Her presence is a giant blessing to my heart!
So how do you go about getting a mama Mentor?  It’s easy, is there a woman with grown children in your life that you admire? that you look up to? Often times these are women in your church, in your Bible study in any group setting that you have maybe even a friend’s mother!
Have someone in mind? Take her out to lunch, take her out to coffee ,sit down and chat with her, tell her that you are looking for a mentor, tell her that you would love to have somebody like her to encourage you!
You’d be surprised how many women would be so blessed and honored to mentor a young mom who was going through what they have gone through and that they’ve survived!
If you don’t approach her she will never know and you may miss out on such an amazing mentor/mentee relationship that God has in store for you!
So there you have it! My thoughts and my feelings about having a mama mentor in your life!
I hope that you consider having a mentor in your life and if you were mom with grown children I hope that you really consider becoming a mentor to a mom with young children!! We need you in our lives!
Smiles & Blessings