The Balancing Act…

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With family, kids, homeschooling, Church, and countless other activities we do as mamas it is easy to lose track of us…who we are. How often do you look back at your day and think “hmm I didn’t do one thing on MY to do list” yeah…I know it happens to me all the time too. I cannot tell you how many times after finishing the, schooling, the naps, the cleaning, the re-cleaning ect. I realize that I haven’t even taken a shower. I for one do not want to live like this, I want to take a shower…at least most days. I want to have a thriving relationship with my heavenly Father, I want more than this! How do we as moms find the balance? Here are a few things that work for me!

Get up Early:
I love getting up early! I love when the only noise I can hear is the breathing of my littles! Ideally I would live to be up at least 1.5/2 hours before the kids, but often they hear me and they want to get up too so I usually get 1 hour of time to my self, to relax, to de-stress, to dare I say it…shower!! That one hour gives me the ability to tackle the day, I’m happier and our days are so wonderful! There is nothing worse than a stressed mama to send the day down the drain!

Spend time in the Word:
When I get up early I devote at least 30 minutes reading the bible! I use the YouVersion app and journal passages that the Lord is showing me! After I have finished my reading (usually 4-6 chapters, I pray over my husband, my kids, our home! I cannot tell you what this does in me, in my heart. I am filled with peace, joy and love!

Make a date with a girlfriend:
How many moms really get to sit a visit with their friends and I mean outside of play dates? I think as moms we need that time…we need to be able to share with our friends, to encourage and be encouraged! Make a coffee date, or a shopping date, or how about a gym date!! I think I’ll make a gym date with my BFF!!

Take time to be alone {without feeling guilty}:
I know that the common thought is “I’ll have me time when the kids are in bed” but really let’s be honest here…Every time I plan to paint my nails or take a bath or blog, somebody can’t get to bed or is sick or…well you know what I mean! Not to mention what about The Hubby? When does time with him fit in? So what’s the answer…well for me, my sweet, amazing, gorgeous husband takes the kids shopping or outside to sled or even wrestle in the family room (that’s the kids favorite…nothing like beating up daddy) my hubby gauges what they are going to do based on the type of day I have told him I’ve had…man I love him! Not only does this bless me more than I can express, but the kids get daddy all to themselves and daddy gets to be the hero!

Pop in some headphones:
Try having quite time together (you know that quite time that you tend to need around hmmm 1:00-3:00) Usually when I get to the point where I need a break the kids are needing one too! When that time rolls around we on a DVD and grab some blankets and cuddle on the couch…they settle in to watch their movie and I pop in my headphone and open my YouVersion app on my iPad or iPhone! What I love about this app is that it has audio! So while the kids are engrossed in the movie I am 100% engrossed in my reading! The best part…I am cuddling with my kiddos!! Sometimes quite time even turns into the twins falling asleep! I love those moments!

Go on a date:
Seriously…a real date! Like the kind you get dressed in a dress for…the kind you do beautiful makeup for (not the everyday routine) the kind of date that you go to a restaurant and sit down! After our first son was born we didn’t want to have a babysitter so we did everything together or we would have our in-home date when he was sleeping. Then the twins came along, now there were three little ones we didn’t want to leave. For our 9th wedding anniversary we went on our first date since 2004…about 6 years! I cannot even begin to describe how wonderful it was!! We sat in a restaurant at a table without booster seats, we talked, we had a great time! It’s been two years and I can’t tell you how many dates we’ve gone on! The catalyst? My mom! She wanted us to experience time alone together without the kids…she knew just how badly we needed it! She is absolutely amazing! I can call her on friday morning and tell her we just really need some time, her response is always 100% of the time “ok! I’ll be there when I get off work, should I pick up something for dinner!” I am blessed!

Smiles & Blessings