Intentional Marriage | A 31 Day Devotional | The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle

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One of the coolest perks about being an affiliate for the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is getting my hands on some of the book included early! Over the next few days I will be sharing some of my favorite ebooks and programs that are apart of the amazing bundle! Intentional Marriage: the art of loving your husband  {a 31 day devotional} is one of the fabulous books in the “Marriage” section of the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle!

 

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In the introduction Crystal says “the biggest threat to marriages in our modern world is neglect. When we stop trying, we start drifting apart.” I have to wholeheartedly agree, once you’ve been married for any length of time it starts becoming comfortable you get caught up in the busyness of life you start only thinking about yourself and sadly we often become thoughtless.Over the last 14 years my husband and I have strived to not allow the busyness of life to take control and pettiness of personal bad habits (in both my husband and myself) but the thing is life is busy and it’s easy to sink into that. Because it is so easy to get consumed by life you have to make every day intentional before you find yourself right in the middle of marriage in crisis. My husband and I have watched countless marriages fall apart because of more than just drifting apart but because they just stopped caring, they stopped being intentional in their marriages in their lives together. They had reached crisis and stopped wanting to be together. I think that it’s a sad reality that this is so very common in this current  world that were part of, but it is and we have to be proactive!

Let’s talk about intentional marriage | 31 day devotional! Crystal Brothers did an awesome job putting this together!!

There are 31 different topics covered in the devotional, including:

  • Cooking your husbands favorite food
  • Five things you love about your husband
  • Date night
  • Be his support
  • Speak only what is helpful assure him of your devotion
  • and more

Each day is put together in such a way that is very easily to accomplish a matter how busy you are. There are four parts to each day

For example Day 15 is “Thank God for him”

  1. A Bible verse Philippians 1:3  “I think my God in all my remembrance of you,”
  2. 2-4 paragraphs discussing what it means to “Thank God for him” What does this mean? How do we do it? Practical tip on how to accomplish said task.
  3. A daily challenge, for this particular day the challenge is “give thanks for your husband every time you think of him having an attitude of things will change your actions towards him”
  4. Finally there is a section of “Daily Challenge” reflection that Crystal has provided on each page. There are number of lines to write some reflection about “today’s challenge” for example you can answer questions like: did today’s challenge go today did it go better-than-expected? did today’s challenge go worse than expected? depending on each days particular challenge you will have different question to reflect on and respond to. If you are like me you will end up doing this section at the end of the day.

I really like the way this devotional is put together! There’s not too much, there’s not too little, it’s absolutely perfect! No matter how much time you have or don’t have, you can do this Devo! I found that no matter how many activities we have each day or how many things I have to do I always have the time I need to read each day, do the days challenge or prepare for it, and spend time praying for my husband. It has to be intentional so I recommend doing it first thing in the morning depending on your situation it might before work, before the kids get up, or like me when the kids are having breakfast. Set a time and stick to it {as best you can}

Besides the fact that this is just an altogether wonderful devotional I love what’s at the end of the book…awesome resources like:

  • 101 ways to bless your husband
  • 101+ free/cheap date night ideas
  • 101+ conversation starters

I like to add to each day the time to pray and write out a prayer for your husband. We are all different, were all going through different things, each of our husbands are going through different things. I would highly suggest taking the time to really pray for your husband!  Pray the things that he’s going through both big and small, any issues that you are having with each other, family, friends {ect.} and lastly, that God will help you be the wife that he has created you to be for your husband.

I hope you grab up the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle and enjoy the Intentional Marriage Devotional as much as I did! As a reminder this bundle is a one time offer, once it’s gone, it’s gone!!!! There’s only 5 days left!

Keep an eye out tomorrow for more of My Favorite ebooks from the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle!

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Let’s Talk Mentors…Mama Mentors!

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Being a mom is hard…right?!? Feeling like you are going it alone is even harder!

Do you ever feel like you just want to cry?  like you want to pull your hair out? like you’re going crazy?? You might be in desperate need of a mama Mentor!

 What’s a mama mentor? A mama mentor is a woman who has either teen or grown children, who is well seasoned in the art of parenting toddlers, young children and grade school aged children! A mother who is a loving and encouraging towards other mothers naturally! I can virtually guarantee that you have at least one woman that fits every single attribute that I just said! Approach her and talk to her about becoming your mentor! But, we’ll talk about that a little later.
When you need a mentor…
There are times when the stress just takes over you just feel like you can’t go one more minute without just bursting into tears, you know when the craziness of your day has taken over every fiber of your being and you are just a giant ball of emotion… It’s times like that with every mom with young littles needs to have somebody that they can call up, that they can text, that they can go to their house and say “I need you I need to talk to you” (it’s great to have your mom and your sisters around but sometimes it’s really good have a third-party friend/mentor who is not directly related to you.  They often have a different and {needed} take on the situation then somebody who is related to you that may be biased about it!
My mentor…

I have been blessed with an amazing mama mentor she’s the mother of children from 20 – 30 years old. She is nothing but supportive of me. I know that whenever I’m having a rough time with any situation at any age and with any of my kids I can go to her and she will have such an amazing bit of encouragement to give me and I know that there’s nothing that I can throw at her that she hasn’t been through! It is so encouraging for her to tell me the story about one of her children who was just a total crazy maniac as a toddler and then she can tell me what he’s like now as a grown-up, she can tell me how she learned that one particular style of discipline was not right for one child but it was right for another child… Something that I deal with on a daily but basis all of my children respond differently to different types of discipline
I love having her as a sounding board, I can tell her my feeling, emotions, ideas & frustrations and I know I will get honest positive encouragement and feedback!
There are times when I just want to sit down with her and tell her that I don’t feel like I can handle it, I don’t feel like I can handle the temper tantrums in the masses and just the absolute craziness that occurs in my house…that’s when she holds my hand and tells me “I know exactly how you feel” and my heart knows she truly knows exactly how I feel… There is no substitute for that!
There are times when I can tell her a particular story and she smiles and says “you know I remember when that happened with_____” and she has her own story of how she dealt with pretty much the exact situation and that is so encouraging and comforting to me in those times of need whether it is stress, anger, happiness, sadness, any emotion.  I mean you name it she has encouragement right there ready for me!
Honestly there have been times when I’ve thought “oh my goodness I am the worst mother on the face of the earth, my kiddos are out-of-control” I turned my mentor to tell her theses these feelings and she laughs and she tells me” oh my gosh your kids are exactly how little kids are in
Amazing mother” I just can’t describe to you how that makes me feel inside! Her words make me feel rejuvenated.  Her presence is a giant blessing to my heart!
So how do you go about getting a mama Mentor?  It’s easy, is there a woman with grown children in your life that you admire? that you look up to? Often times these are women in your church, in your Bible study in any group setting that you have maybe even a friend’s mother!
Have someone in mind? Take her out to lunch, take her out to coffee ,sit down and chat with her, tell her that you are looking for a mentor, tell her that you would love to have somebody like her to encourage you!
You’d be surprised how many women would be so blessed and honored to mentor a young mom who was going through what they have gone through and that they’ve survived!
If you don’t approach her she will never know and you may miss out on such an amazing mentor/mentee relationship that God has in store for you!
So there you have it! My thoughts and my feelings about having a mama mentor in your life!
I hope that you consider having a mentor in your life and if you were mom with grown children I hope that you really consider becoming a mentor to a mom with young children!! We need you in our lives!
Smiles & Blessings

Christians and Lent

Lent is giving up something with a desire to draw closer to the Lord!

Not all Christian churches observe Lent. Lent is mostly observed by the Lutheran, Methodist,Presbyterian and Anglican denominations, and also by Roman Catholics. We are non denominational and although it is not necessary to observe Lent, there is no reason why Christians should not observe Lent if they so choose. It is just another way to remember Jesus and what he has done for us.
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This year my husband and I have decided to participate in Lent…in the sense of…Giving up something that we do every day and replacing it with spending time reading the bible and praying!
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My husband and I are both giving up all drinks accept water, sweets and anger/yelling!! Obviously this is not like giving up, say, a tv show {when the show is on instead of watching you could read the bible or pray} so when I feel my self getting angry I step back and ask God to help me relax. As for giving up sweets and beverages other than water…here is our thinking…sugar tends to make us wired. We find ourselves unable to relax or/and concentrate…enter reading the bible…mind wandering…frustration because you just aren’t getting it! Without those sugary treats and drinks we will both have a easier time focusing!
What is Lent?
Lent is the Christian season of preparation before Easter. Ash Wednesday (2/13/13) marks the first day, or the start of the season of Lent, which begins 40 days prior to Easter (Sundays are not included in the count). {This year Lent is 2/13-3/30
Lent is a time when many Christians prepare for Easter by observing a period of fasting, repentance, moderation and spiritual discipline. The purpose is to set aside time for reflection on Jesus – his suffering and his sacrifice, his life, death, burial and resurrection. My personal thought is: give up something you REALLY like, then when you start thinking about it you instead spend time in the bible! Thus giving up something to draw you closer to the Lord!
Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.” 1 Corinthians 9:25-27
If you choose to participate
Things you could give up for Lent:
Television (or specific shows or channels)
The radio
Favorite foods (pizza, ice cream, etc.)
Eating out
Alcohol
Soft drinks/caffeine/coffee
Smoking
Clutter
Debt (using credit cards)
Certain books/magazines (read ones that will help you grow spiritually)
Social Media sites (Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, etc.)
Blogging
Negativity/Stress
Gossip
Anger/Yelling
Lying
Swearing/foul language
Addictions
Procrastination
Working overtime (unnecessarily)
After the decision has been made you need to follow through…sometimes that means every single morning you wake up and ask God to help you!
Spend time with God either in prayer or reading the Bible! For example someone who is giving up a particular tv show could spend the time that they would usually be watching it reading the Bible!
You can even get your children involved with these ideas for kids: (Replace something with Family Bible study time)
Television (or certain shows)
Video games
Computer (games, social networking, etc.)
Fighting with siblings
Being disrespectful to parents
Lying
Soft drinks
Sweets/Candy
Like I said at the beginning…choosing to participate in Lent, it a way to draw us closer to the Lord!  Are you participating in Lent? I’d love to hear what changes you are making!
Smiles & Blessings

My Father Loves Me

My Father…

Loves me – John 3:16
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

Cares for me – Matthew 6:26
“Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?”

Forgives me – Psalm 103:12
“as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.”

Is compassionate – Psalm 103:4-5
“who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,
who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.”

Is giving – Romans 8:32
“He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?”

Is understanding – Psalm 139:1-2
“You have searched me, Lord, and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.

Is accepting – Psalm 139:1-6
“You have searched me, Lord, and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.”

Satisfies – Psalm 107:9
“for he satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things.”

Persistently pursues me – Luke 19:10
“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.”

Pardons – Psalm 103:3
“who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases,”

Heals – Isaiah 53:5
“But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities;
the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed.”

Redeems – Job 19:25
“I know that my redeemer lives, and that in the end he will stand on the earth.”

Is loving kindness – Psalm 86:15
“But you, Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.”

Renews – Isaiah 40:31
“but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary,they will walk and not be faint.”

Is righteous – Jeremiah 9:23-24
This is what the Lord says:
“Let not the wise boast of their wisdom or the strong boast of their strength or the rich boast of their riches, but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know me,
that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,” declares the Lord.

Is gracious – Ephesians 1:7-8
“In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us. With all wisdom and understanding,”

Is sovereign – Psalm 103:19
“The Lord has established his throne in heaven, and his kingdom rules over all.”